Do I have to take my clothes off?

Ummmm. . . do I have to take all my clothes off? The short answer is "No, absolutely not". This is one of the most asked questions about massage so I thought I'd write about it. When I studied massage, many years ago, we were told to say, "Take off whatever you're comfortable with". That's

How could I forget my massage?

Lying on the massage table, getting oiled up for my Lomi Lomi massage the other day, I realised that I had left it too long since my last massage. How did that happen? Usually I'm pretty consistent about having at least one massage per month - I can feel it when I'm overdue. I figure

How to give a great massage!

Everyone wants a massage, but sometimes getting in to see your favourite massage therapist is too hard or inconvenient. In moments like that, knowing how to give your partner a decent massage yourself can be really useful. But ... do you know how to give a good massage? Giving an at-home massage isn't that hard. Here are

Goodbye Snowy

My biggest baby's tears rolled down my arm as she sobbed silently, chest heaving. We rocked together, heads on each other's shoulders. We rocked and talked and cried. She found Snowy's star - in Lion King the kings and queens become the stars in the sky when they die. Snowy was certainly a Queen. Regal

  • Lone Pine


  As the sun rose on a cold, silent morning at Anzac Cove,  the mist swirled around us. Overlooking the beach we felt the ghosts of the ANZACS. We walked through the trenches and at Lone Pine we cried for the wasted lives. Julie, my friend, and I visited Gallipoli as part of a backpacking

I’ve been cold water swimming!

Cold water swimming! Mid-July a friend finally, after several months, convinced me to join her in the ocean pool at 7am on a Saturday morning. It's the middle of winter! To even contemplate swimming in the sea is crazy! (I only get in the water when it has passed above 25C.) My friend picked me

  • Manopause

Menopause is coming . . .

Today my period arrived. It's been six weeks since the last one. Once, long ago, I'd have been sweating on my period arriving, anxiously awaiting confirmation that I was not, after all, pregnant. On its arrival, the relief would wash over me and then life would carry on as before. Less long ago, I

  • The Project

Ten seconds of Minecraft fame on “The Project”

  A few months ago my son and I were interviewed for a segment on the TV news program, The Project - Minecraft Mayhem My son has been obsessed with the online game for a couple of years. He will wake before dawn so that he can build a new world before breakfast. Afternoon tea is shovelled

  • Aging parents

How do we care for ageing parents?

When I was a teenager, we had "sex education" at school, to learn about our changing bodies, periods, sex and babies. When I was pregnant, I attended antenatal classes to learn about giving birth, how to change nappies and to bath a baby. As I enter menopause, I've been to workshops to learn about my